There has been a long-term debate about who should be blamed for a person’s wrongdoings. Is it their own fault that they turned out doing stupid things, or do the parents need to be criticized for not raising them well when they were young?
The reality is that there genuinely is a 50% possibility that a child will not turn out fine when they have a wonky childhood. Not many parents are aware of their misgivings, after all, so they continue to raise the children in the same awful way. When they act out, they blame it on the kids’ friends and everyone else in the community except themselves. They fail to see that their kids have become unhinged because of their upbringing.
What can you do to keep your child’s mental health safe?
Watch Your Mouth
From the start, you need to watch every comment that comes out of your mouth. Kids are sensitive human beings who remember everything they hear, especially if the words are against them. For instance, when you always call them ugly, bratty, and other derogatory names, they will believe you and embrace what you say they are.
You can avoid such conflict by looking for kind, productive ways to express how you feel. It is also ideal to keep yourself from saying awful stuff about other people in front of the kids. Otherwise, they might assume that speaking without thinking was acceptable.
Take Advantage Of Websites’ Content-Filtering Options
It is inevitable for kids to use the internet, especially now that classes are supposed to take place online due to the pandemic. The parents who used to wish to expose their children to electronic devices now had no choice but to teach them how to navigate various apps and websites.
If you want to prevent your child from coming across adult-friendly content that might mess up with their mental health, you need to filter the websites they can access. In case they are on YouTube or Netflix, you can indicate that the little ones are watching so that the platform will automatically filter the videos.
Teach Kids How To Deal With Bullies Early
Bullies often have a massive impact on how a kid’s mental health looks like five, 15, or 50 years later. Being on the receiving end of bullying tends to make children depressed, anxious, or anti-social, primarily if the offender used the internet to bully them. And the longer they experience such treatment, the deeper the scarring they get emotionally and psychologically.
What some parents fail to do is teach the kids how to deal with bullies before they even go to pre-school. They merely assume that their children will never experience it because they have been enrolled at a fantastic school with fantastic teachers. Mind you, different forms of bullying can happen anywhere. When you enlighten your kids about bullies early, you may be able to save them from the lasting effects of bullying.
Remind Children Of Your Unconditional Support
Sometimes, children become rebellious even when they have loving parents, and people wonder why. They say such kids are ungrateful or have lost their marbles to drugs, alcohol, and other substances. However, keep in mind that everything a child does is based on what they have experienced at home. If they always go against the parents’ will, it is likely because they don’t feel like the latter understands them or supports their wishes.
Considering you don’t want to be the reason behind your kids’ mental instability, you need to ask yourself honestly, “Do they know how much I love them and support their decisions, no matter what?” The reason is that some parents are not showy with how they feel, and so the children think that mom and dad don’t care about them.
The only way to remedy that is by reminding the little ones about your unconditional support to them – every day if you must. And whenever they want to do something, the immediate answer should not always be no. That’s hurtful, and it makes kids want to push your limits or do everything you tell them not to do.
Children are impressionable human beings who learn how to do or react to things through their parents. If they see you honking your car horn incessantly when someone takes a few seconds longer to move forward when the red traffic light turns green, they might think it’s okay once they start driving, too. If you show them that no one will bat an eye when you curse or foul-mouth others in front of people, they start doing the same thing around their peers, turning them into bullies immediately.
When you are already a parent, the kids’ education, food, and home are not the only aspects that you should be excellent at providing. You must also prioritize their mental health as soon as you can communicate with them to remain as positive as ever.