Parents naturally want to become the best providers for their children. That is especially true if they have experienced hardships themselves as kids. They don’t wish for them to worry about not having enough money for food or roof over their heads. Hence, such moms and dads tend to work harder than anyone. “Burnout is feeling overwhelmed and unfulfilled at the same time,” says Deborah Gilboa, MD, a parenting expert in Pittsburgh. “Look at the big picture and make changes.”
The thing is, spending a lot of hours in the office means parents can’t be with their kids as often as they should. It can bring a lot of cons, namely:
You Have To Spend More Time Away From Your Children
The primary disadvantage of working too hard to give your kids a better future is that you have to spend a lot of time away from them. After all, when your goal is to snag an executive position in a company or build your own, you cannot stay idle at home. You need to be out there, doing your work, and interacting with people who can help you level up. Otherwise, your rivals may speed past you.
You Cannot See The Kids Reach Every Milestone In Person
It is also a downer to know that you have to go on a business trip when your firstborn is supposed to attend their first recital or graduate from high school. It does not feel okay either to see your kids and spouse post photos from the event, and you’re the only one missing there. No matter how much you want to be with them as they reach another milestone in their life, you can only congratulate them online or via phone.
You Risk Having Emotionally Distant Children
I have personally come across kids who are closer to the person who stayed with them often than the parents whom they saw one or two months yearly. They stay polite, but you can tell how forced their smiles are. They don’t talk back, but they don’t speak much to you either. Worse, when a child needs something, they go straight to the carer instead of the parent who’s also there. According to Francyne Zeltser, Psy.D, “Rather than just worry about it, ask your children directly how she is feeling on a daily basis, and try not to be dismissive of h er concerns. It’s important to validate your child’s feelings and show her that you’re here to listen.”
You Cannot Regain Lost Time
Last but not least, trying too hard to give every material object that your kids may ask for makes you lose the time that you should have spent with them. You need to focus on generating a lot of money, after all. You rarely go on holidays; if you do, you may be on your phone or computer often. As long as you can provide their financial needs, you think that everything will be okay. However, it is impossible to regain lost time with your family.
To Sum Things Up
The life of a working mom or dad cannot be easy. You practically have to juggle two full-time jobs as a worker and a parent. You may
not be in a position either to turn in a resignation letter and focus on the kids. Still, you need to remember that your family should be your priority. If you let too much time pass without them, they may end up not needing you anymore. “Despite the possible negative effects of having working parents, children may also experience certain benefits if they have working parents who responsibly attend to their needs.” says psychologist Ashley Miller.